Are You a Non-Mom?: I realize Teleflora corrected itself, but I can't believe they called adoptive mothers "non-Moms" to begin with!
Thoughts on becoming a mother through adoption: Poignant commentary on the complexities of adoption.
Maybe the 2nd link explains the 1st link. What do you think?
New Year, New Focus: Inward
11 months ago
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Wow. Never having gone through the first, I wasn't sure whether to gape or giggle. I'm still blinking.
As for the second: Yep.
Interesting Thursday thoughts.
Oh boy. Telaflora corrected itself, but they still kept adopting moms in the category with grandparents? As if adopting moms are not working moms or single moms, etc. I do agree with the article that often people just say ignorant things because they have not walked in our shoes and not because they are trying to be obnoxious. I haven't had any comments regarding being an non-mom, but I sure have had my share of racial comments/questions already (they have really caught me off guard). I have to gather up an arsenal of "educational" comments for that matter. Thanks for sharing. It will be interesting to see what people have to say. Tricia
I am speechless at Teleflora. What idiot wrote that? And who supervised that person? Having worked for many years in corporate communications, I know this had to pass a whole chain of people and I am OUTRAGED that it even appeared. As a grandparent (to Aila) and watching Jennifer parent her 24/7, I am stunned. As wonderful as it is to be Nana T, I do not hold a candle to what her REAL MOTHER - Jennifer - does for her every minute of every day. And "non-mom" - even for grandparents - is an insult. My hair is standing straight up!
Oh yeah, I remember reading the controversy around Telaflora when it happened. I was shocked and disgusted. It does not matter that they corrected themselves, it was still put out there.
I love the second article. Right on.
It is always amazing the lack of sensitivity regarding adoption language...
Meanwhile, We haven't checked on you in awhile!! I hope Alia's ear infection is clearing up and that you all enjoying the craziness of the holiday season. Your family photo at Thanksgiving is super. It is great to see Luca enjoying being a big brother and Alia's big smiles. You all look very happy.
Happy Holidays!
I am truly flabbergasted at ANYONE who would consider that parenting is any different based on how your child came to be your child.
I guess I am naive, and think that everyone should just think the way I do. Having parented-and in parenting step children, a biological child, and an adopted child-there is no difference in my "Mom" status. All my kids are certainly very different-so that affects the way I parent them-but surely doesn't affect my love for them nor do I really differeniate it in my mind that much-except I do clarify my stepkids cuz they are in their upper 20's and don't want anyone to think i am THAT old.
The process of adoption and the process of childbirth are so different-but the love you have for your children is no different at all.
Thanks for sharing that NYT article. That is incredible stuff. Well written and totally provocative. Hmm. Lots to ponder.
xoxoox
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